Appreciation; the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving them their proper value....
Why do relationships not work?.... Simply because we fail to carry out the act of estimating the quality of what we have, and in addition giving it it's proper value.
Too often, we lose what we have; and it is only after it has gone, that we realise how significant it was in our lives. Initially, it is beautiful, perfect, exactly what we desire to have in our possessions. Until we are confronted with something that is seemingly 'better'. I do understand though that sometimes, persons are not meant to be, and so relationships do not last.... But those are exceptions and not the relationships from which I draw my conclusions.
>>Allow me to introduce you to the 80:20 RULE [some of you may already be familiar with this but for those who are not]...
It simply implies, that most of the time in relationships, (marriage, committed or just casually dating) we get only 80% of the 100% we desire to attain, and we therefore unconsciously or consciously (depending on the individual) seek out that which eludes us; though it is in fact the minority percentage of what makes a person who they are.
Now realistically, we may say that we are content with the 80% that our companion possesses, but many times we find ourselves chasing after the 20% that they don't. Please do not misunderstand me going after what one wants is never a bad thing. It is what we leave behind, the pains we inflict on others or the paths we choose while we are in pursuit of what we want that brings things into perspective. Do we make good choices? Do we really acquire what we desire, or do we lose the things that are really of the utmost importance to us? Does it really make sense to leave 80 for 20?
Sometimes it may seem like the 20 is something that we cannot just accept as not existing, and so we move, leaving our 80 behind. Until we begin to crave the 80 that we once had...
Though 20 in mathematical terminology is the lesser in this case, it is of great significance *otherwise we would not destroy relationships because of it*. But we must come to the place where we are not controlled by the things we do not have, but rather be content with the things we do have that initially brought us happiness.
Men/Ladies we are both victims of this disease!!!
If you so desire to have that 20%, then sit your significant other down and let them know, bring to their attention the 20% that they may lack for whatever reason, and show them how they can begin to acquire the 20% you so seriously crave.COMMUNICATE with each other, send messages, and demand feedback.
In relationships, couples must learn to compromise. No being is perfect there will always be a lack of something, it is when you in yourself are not perfect yet you desire perfection that causes the issues in relationships to begin with.
Learn to appreciate that which you do have, and show your appreciation, cherish it, be content, though at times it may be difficult to do so-with all the 20%s walking around- remember you have an 80% before you. Wake up and hold on to the pass(80%) you have and forget the fail(20%) you don't, before it's too late and you end up losing the beauty you already have.
Please feel free to make your own contributions, I welcome all opinions :)
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