A FINE LINE

Has it ever occurred to you that people around you look so much alike, that it's sometimes hard to differentiate between person who are associated and those who are not?

Increasingly everyone is desirous of self expression, whether it be in clothing, action or ideology (their general way of thinking).... More often than not, the typical individual is in full agreement with 'self expression' and the ever prevalent 'INDIVIDUALITY'.

But, what exactly are they expressing?

MY view on the subject is that WE have too often allowed external influences to forge OUR individualistic expressions. For examples:-

1) The dress code we adopt- whether they be from the hairstyles to the articles of clothing we drape ourselves in- they are never totally a reflection of self. Don't get me wrong, I have no qualms with keeping up with fashion, or the choice of creating 'self expression' from a designers creation. The issue starts for me when self expression becomes the forum for stolen ideas, and borrowed costuming...

Everyone wants to be the next Nikki Minaj, Cassie or even Rihanna; with their fake hair colours or haircuts (all with bangs), eccentric dressing and even the weird facial expressions in photography. All around us there are passa passa dancers and Meritol performers. Who ALL look the same by the way. Every time I'm in a club or anywhere in my beautiful country as a whole, I see more and more replicas of an already existing public persona. People! Let these people have their identities back, stop borrowing and find your own!!! 

2) Even the way we speak, we have chosen to omit our local slangs and actions to adopt foreign choice of words, and even behaviours.

Influences are unavoidable- especially when we are exposed to it by mass media on a day to day basis- but WE MUST try to limit our use of these external influences when we desire to express self.

The examples that i have used do not imply that I do not like the people I have chosen, and it does not mean that I have a problem with them neither am I adopting a haters stance .... I just believe that we can all be in admiration of them without unknowingly becoming them in the process. We can still express self by dressing similarly (if we must), BUT make it our own by being variant in many instances... Dare to be different! Which will u chose INDIVIDUALITY or UNIFORMED CONFORMITY?..... A Fine Line!

Please feel free to add your own opinions I INVITE THEM OPENLY.... If u disagree ALL THE BETTER... Tell me what u think ;) 

Remember All opinions are most welcomed!!! 

Life is a Joy, Embrace it!

Dangerous Assuptions

"Not because it comes into mind; it means that it actually exists."

A lot of times, women/men believe that their significant other is cheating on them simply because he/she may look at another woman or man...

Realistically, sometimes they do; women and men do sometimes cheat, and some are really a bunch of good-for-nothings. However, some only cheat after they are constantly bombarded by accusatory questions on a day-to-day basis. 

Ladies!!! Check your personal insecurities and issues, then deal with them before you bring them into your current relationships. Men do not desire a woman who is unaware of her physical and intellectual worth. A man will be content and willing to fight for what he has, once what he has is showing a level of quality that he views as worth fighting for. 

No man wants a nag, or a boss, or a defense lawyer as a girlfriend, wife, or lover... So, sometimes, ladies, give your men a break. If he looks, let him look -women look as well and they talk about what they've seen and how good it is (innocently of course)- But if a man remains where he is, that means he is content because if he saw something else that he could get, bet yuh bottom dollar he ah guh get it and leff you, just because you are 'too much to handle' and you are 'bringing too much stress in his life'. So quit the peeking around in text messages, and BB IMs, and stop tryna be everywhere he's going to be... give the man some space, he already has on ample articles of clothing....

Men!!! Stop trying to control everything. The beauty of a relationship is the ability of both parties to maintain their individuality and freedom. Who wants someone to be with them because they have no other choice? Who wants to keep doing what another person wants to do with no consideration for their own desires all the time??? NO ONE!!! Therefore, allow your ladies to have their male friends; don't you have female friends you refuse to let go of? Most times, it is a simple, innocent friendship that existed before they even chose you. THINK ABOUT IT, SHE CHOSE YOU!!! So there is no need to hang around her ever move, insinuating that she has ulterior motives when she's out with her friends, or asking her who she's talking to in a judgmental tone, then getting angry when she's trying to tell you about something that transpired during the day. BE GRATEFUL SHE'S TELLING YOU AT ALL! Most men judge their women based on how they would handle a situation themselves. Don't do so when you don't like so...

Finally. Both parties have to come to the understanding of contentment; be grateful and appreciative of what you have, and see the beauty in it. However, if you feel like you desire to move on, DO SO. Don't waste time and cause a nasty void to be created between you and your significant other. I will even go as far as to say:- Make God the center of your relationship, whatever type it may be: married, a committed relationship without marriage, or casual dating. Pray together, spend time with God together, and if it ends, then you'll both know it was never meant to be... But you'll still be able to remain friends, you see ;)

Feel free to comment as your feelings move u... remember no opinion is unwelcome 

Life is a Joy, Embrace it!

Anchor Crews.....

Question Unanswered

Most times we often ask ourselves,'' How does one know when he or she has found that elusive 'ONE'?"  That individual who descriptively completes us, and allows us to yearn for a forever that may or may not be afforded to us...

Well, many of us may believe that we've found the one, until we are faced with issues in our relationships that cause us to second-guess our previous decision of entering that relationship in which we are currently 'suffering'.

My take is, however, that an individual knows when he or she has found the one, when he or she is faced with an issue in their relationship and still cannot see an existence without their significant other. He/she would rather suffer at all costs than give up on it all because the reward, which involves keeping their mate, to them, is seemingly worth more than losing their mate over the current situation and therefore prefers to fight for that silver lining to their cloud. 

Even in the instance of separation, whether it be temporarily or permanently, if you feel like a literal part of you has been severed from your person, and continuation of life without your partner is almost impossible. If you feel like nothing tangible or intangible can fill that void... then that may be your person. 

Tell me what u think :).. no opinion is unwelcome.....I invite u to help me make this Blog an exciting one....

Life is a joy, Embrace it!