Dangerous Assuptions

"Not because it comes into mind; it means that it actually exists."

A lot of times, women/men believe that their significant other is cheating on them simply because he/she may look at another woman or man...

Realistically, sometimes they do; women and men do sometimes cheat, and some are really a bunch of good-for-nothings. However, some only cheat after they are constantly bombarded by accusatory questions on a day-to-day basis. 

Ladies!!! Check your personal insecurities and issues, then deal with them before you bring them into your current relationships. Men do not desire a woman who is unaware of her physical and intellectual worth. A man will be content and willing to fight for what he has, once what he has is showing a level of quality that he views as worth fighting for. 

No man wants a nag, or a boss, or a defense lawyer as a girlfriend, wife, or lover... So, sometimes, ladies, give your men a break. If he looks, let him look -women look as well and they talk about what they've seen and how good it is (innocently of course)- But if a man remains where he is, that means he is content because if he saw something else that he could get, bet yuh bottom dollar he ah guh get it and leff you, just because you are 'too much to handle' and you are 'bringing too much stress in his life'. So quit the peeking around in text messages, and BB IMs, and stop tryna be everywhere he's going to be... give the man some space, he already has on ample articles of clothing....

Men!!! Stop trying to control everything. The beauty of a relationship is the ability of both parties to maintain their individuality and freedom. Who wants someone to be with them because they have no other choice? Who wants to keep doing what another person wants to do with no consideration for their own desires all the time??? NO ONE!!! Therefore, allow your ladies to have their male friends; don't you have female friends you refuse to let go of? Most times, it is a simple, innocent friendship that existed before they even chose you. THINK ABOUT IT, SHE CHOSE YOU!!! So there is no need to hang around her ever move, insinuating that she has ulterior motives when she's out with her friends, or asking her who she's talking to in a judgmental tone, then getting angry when she's trying to tell you about something that transpired during the day. BE GRATEFUL SHE'S TELLING YOU AT ALL! Most men judge their women based on how they would handle a situation themselves. Don't do so when you don't like so...

Finally. Both parties have to come to the understanding of contentment; be grateful and appreciative of what you have, and see the beauty in it. However, if you feel like you desire to move on, DO SO. Don't waste time and cause a nasty void to be created between you and your significant other. I will even go as far as to say:- Make God the center of your relationship, whatever type it may be: married, a committed relationship without marriage, or casual dating. Pray together, spend time with God together, and if it ends, then you'll both know it was never meant to be... But you'll still be able to remain friends, you see ;)

Feel free to comment as your feelings move u... remember no opinion is unwelcome 

Life is a Joy, Embrace it!

Anchor Crews.....